INTERACTIVE EROTIC EDUCATION (IEE)
DEEPEN YOUR EROTIC POTENTIAL THROUGH PLAYFUL INTERACTION
You understand the principles, but lack practical experience. You’d like to develop your skills with an experienced person who can give you honest feedback. To have the chance to practice with no pressure to perform. Daring to meet mishaps with humour and keep trying until you get it right.
I’ll help you make the next steps in your journey to sexual fulfilment, to engage in brave experiments and boost your sexual self-confidence. As your coach, I will interact with you in a conscious way, inviting mutual touch. In a consensual, playful setting, designed to support your learning.
As a trained Interactive Erotic Educator (IEE), I draw my knowledge and range of methods from many years of experience with coaching and bodywork. By incorporating my own body in the process, I give you the opportunity to practice your newly acquired skills directly on me. For some topics, hands-on interaction—combined with open communication and professional encouragement—can help you make progress faster than conversations or counseling alone. These sessions offer great opportunities for creative experimentation, yet they can also be gentle and cautious. We’ll find out which pace works best for you.
INTERACTIVE EROTIC EDUCATION (IEE) IS ESPECIALLY SUITED TO THESE TOPICS:
If you have little experience with romantic interactions with women and feel awkward or insecure.
If you’re an “absolute beginner” (also known as “love shyness” or sexual shyness, or you define as a male virgin).
If you’re sexually experienced but are just coming out of a breakup or divorce and don’t know how to take the first step into the dating world.
If you have a wealth of sexual experience but find yourself falling back into old patterns.
If you want to free yourself of (performance) pressure and learn to be more present and feel more deeply.
If you’re satisfied with your sex life but feel there’s still more to discover.
If you’re looking for new inspiration to make your sexuality more playful and open to experimentation.
I work with a variety of creative approaches, many of which I’ve developed myself over the years. The sessions are tailored to your needs and learning interests and we co-create the content.
Below are a few examples of recognized methods that I often incorporate into the sessions. Your ideas are also very welcome. Allow yourself to be inspired.
Are you ready to go deeper?
Roleplay
I love play. It allows us to step outside our usual patterns, follow our light-heartedness and impulsiveness, and encounter each other openly and without intention. Many people have forgotten how to play due to their upbringing or their everyday, working lives. It can be very healing to rediscover this playful energy and invite surprises or even challenges. I support you in encountering your lust and sensuality through play and I join you in the encounter with my own spirited energy.
Role-playing is not only a wonderful way to activate your playful instincts or desires. It is also an effective and valuable method for practising real-life situations, such as expressing desires and needs in a partnership or in a new intimate encounter. I play the other part and offer you feedback and suggestions, as well as the opportunity to keep on practicing, to feel more confident and comfortable and to embody the new experience.
Ritual Play
Ritual play is a form of encounter that allows you to follow your impulses, to express freely and to interact without any clear objective. In our performance-oriented society, we have often forgotten how to connect unintentionally, especially in intimate encounters. We frequently approach such encounters with a particular expectation in mind – with the goal of obtaining or experiencing something specific, or of pleasing the other person. In doing so, we miss out on the present moment.
With this method, we invite our playful, spontaneous and courageous parts to come forward. The play can be wild, passionate and very physical, but also calm, relaxed or emotionally touching. Sometimes it can feel very challenging and vulnerable to let go of our concepts and embrace the unknown. Uncertainty and hesitation and are also welcome in Ritual Play and can provide a wonderful learning environment, inviting our braver sides to show themselves.
Guidelines:
The game is non-verbal. We can laugh, shout, moan, sing. However, conversations only take place before and after the game, outside the 3x3m ritual space.
Boundaries are agreed upon in advance and non-verbal signals are used during the game.
It is also possible to leave the ritual space at any time to pause the interaction, or to end the game completely with an agreed hand signal. The length of the game is determined in advance. At the sound of the gong, we both leave the ritual space and sit together to talk about what we have learned, the challenges we encountered and which moments we enjoyed.
We keep our underwear on and do not touch our genitals. At first, this seems contradictory for a game without a goal, in which we want to follow our impulses. However, this rule allows us to focus on the rest of the body, especially when it comes to desire or sensuality, which we often associate very much with our genitals. It also provides a safe environment in which the mucous membranes remain protected.
Ritual Play was developed by Marina Kronkvist in Finland, where I had the honour and pleasure to train with her. Although the method seems very simple at first glance, like many forms of somatic improvisation, it has a profound potential to break down old patterns and open up new realms of experience.
Some people ask why the word ‘ritual’ is used. For me, the ritual aspect of ritual play is the mutual commitment to create a specific place and frame in which our playful encounter takes place, where we meet with presence and authenticity and honour and appreciate everything that is there in that moment.
Condom training for men
You’re ready to take responsibility for birth control. You want to protect yourself and your date from sexually transmitted infections (STIs). However, you go limp the moment you come into contact with the condom.
You’re not alone in this—sometimes it just takes a bit of practice and the right approach. I will support you with condom training so you can skillfully—and maybe even with a sexy wink—integrate a condom into your lovemaking.
Flirt Coaching
A word in advance: I do not believe in conventional ‘flirt coaching’. I don’t think there are any methods that work for everyone, and I don’t believe that the carefully learned language of male ‘pick-up artists’ really impresses women. However, I do believe that eye contact, showing genuine interest in the person you are dating, and having the courage to show both your qualities and your vulnerability, can be very attractive. When you invite someone on a date, it is important that you are willing to make decisions, take the lead, and express your own desires so that your date can also relax. It does not usually go down well if you always say, ‘I’ll do whatever YOU want’, thus relinquishing responsibility. The same applies when things get more intimate. Pre-prepared ‘tactics’ or supposedly clever things to say are not helpful here either, but instead authentic communication, an awareness of your own needs and the ability to be responsive to the person you are dating. This comes with practice. In a setting where your challenges and possible blockages are allowed to be there and can also be resolved.
Through role-playing, the IFS method (‘inner team’), feedback and practising together, we find a humorous, creative, accepting, loving and transformative way to work on the challenges of dating and to strengthen your qualities.
Shared self-love rituals
Together, we explore ways to transform habitual masturbation patterns into a creative, embodied self-love practice. We engage our whole bodies, our senses, and our experimental spirit. We activate our sensual, erotic energy through breath, movement, voice, and touch, also allowing space for slowness, stillness, and gentle sensing.
Self-love, or masturbation, is something that tends to be practiced alone or in secret, often as a means to an end—to fall asleep more easily or to relieve everyday stress. Sometimes it is done in a hurry, perhaps with the help of pornography, which leaves little room for real sensing. The familiar “technique,” which has often served as a useful tool since adolescence, is repeated over and over again and can sometimes even lead to a lack of desire or boredom.
Developing your own unique, mindful, embodied self-love practice can lead to a whole new relationship with your body and your sensuality, bringing you more joy and a deeper connection to yourself in your everyday life.
Erotic coaching expanded
Sometimes it can be helpful to put your theoretical knowledge into practice and work on your communication skills or your quality of touch with an experienced partner.
Perhaps you’d like to learn more about female anatomy using a real body as a model. Or maybe you’d like to explore challenges related to your sexuality (such as erections or orgasms) in an intimate setting, completely free from any pressure to perform.
Maybe you have little or no experience with sexual encounters, or you are unsure—after a breakup—how to meet someone new or how to plan a date. When it comes to the art of seduction, you feel at a loss or like an inexperienced teenager.
Or maybe you’re confident about your sexuality—perhaps you even spend a lot of time on dating apps or at casual erotic encounters—but you realize that in doing so, you’re losing touch: with yourself, with your partner, with your authentic desire, and with your true wishes. Even if you’re completely satisfied with your sex life, you might want to discover something new and significantly expand your range of experience in a practical way.
Through playful, somatic exercises or massage techniques—in which we immerse ourselves together, using mutual touch—we’ll explore ways to expand your own capacity for pleasure and sensual awareness, as well as your potential to offer pleasure and enjoyment to your partner.
Sacred Intimate Sessions
Intimacy, closeness, desire, and ecstasy. With mindfulness and a conscious, loving approach, I guide you in discovering and unfolding your erotic energy. As a muse, mentor, and lover, I support you in finding your very own erotic expression, beyond taboos and society’s idea of what should be expected. For this kind of guidance, I consciously invite my own erotic energy into the process, however the focus remains on your learning experience.
The sessions can be playful, sensual, and fun, but also mindful and gentle. We stay in constant communication and work together to create a sensual, pleasurable, or also tender, intimate experience, based on your learning goals.
The term “Sacred Intimate” originates in the United States and refers to a person who uses sexual energy in a loving, professional setting with the goal of supporting the other person’s potential for sexual pleasure and joy in life. Here, sexuality is understood as a healing, nourishing, and vital life force.
* Sacred Intimacy in a coaching context is different from prostitution/sex work.
To avoid misunderstandings, I would like to clarify the distinction here:
In this coaching context, I support you in exploring a specific learning goal. I take a process-oriented approach and develop the session together with you. Asking for “specific services” in advance is inappropriate in this context, and I ask that you respect this. However, sharing your challenges and learning goals is very welcome.
If you’d like to treat yourself to an erotic adventure, to lean back and simply enjoy the fulfillment of your sexual desires, a sexwork session would be appropriate—but not a coaching or Sacred Intimate session. Sex work is legal in Germany, and I value and support the profession and all those who practice it.
Could it be even more pleasurable?
Coaching with dinner and wine
You are a connoisseur of good food and excellent wine. Do you love combining learning with culinary delights in a beautiful location? Me too.
Many of my coaching methods can be taught very well between courses or after a meal over a relaxing drink. Perhaps you would like to start by talking about your concerns and learning more about how I work during the first session. Feel free to invite me to your favourite restaurant and I will creatively adapt the session to our surroundings. If you would like a recommendation, I also can suggest a suitable restaurant where we can talk undisturbed.
For sessions of this kind, I charge my normal fee and request that you to cover the additional costs of the restaurant as well as my travel to and from the location.
Coaching on the Road
Learning is fun. It can happen in the world’s most beautiful places – at the Mediterranean coast, the North or Baltic Sea, on a hike through Tuscany or at a tantra retreat in Thailand. Travel with me to your favourite place and take time for your sexual journey of discovery, far from work and everyday stress.
We can begin the day with swimming, Chi Gong or Sexual Tao meditation. Over a leisurely, relaxed breakfast, we can discuss your learning preferences and spend the morning with a session perfectly tailored to you and your sensual and sexual exploration needs.
In the afternoon, we could continue to explore in an afternoon session, or you can take time to integrate what you have learned – while sightseeing, cycling or hiking.
In the evenings, we can cook together or enjoy specialities in a local restaurant, before rounding off the day with somatic exercises, a soothing or invigorating massage, a contemplative tantra ritual, or yoga and breathing exercises to induce deep and restful sleep.
I would be happy to help you find the right location, and I can also take care of the travel planning and booking for you. I respect any needs for discretion.
I am a relaxed, creative, humorous and fun-loving travel companion who feels at home in many places around the world. Below are some of the locations I enjoy.
Nature or activity holidays, spa resorts, holiday home or fincas, houseboats, city hotels and cultural trips, cruises or yachts, tree houses, lighthouses or bamboo huts on the beach, as well as glamping, island hopping in Greece or long-distance travel.
With my professional background as a former gallery owner and freelance interpreter, I am a confident, independent woman, who enjoys good conversation and the perfect companion for longer trips – especially if you wish to combine a trip with deepening your sexual and sensual experiences.
I speak fluent German and English and some Spanish.
