FREESTYLE SOMATIC SEX COACHING
Playful Experiments
Roleplay
I love play. It allows us to step outside our usual patterns, follow our light-heartedness and impulsiveness, and encounter each other openly and without intention. Many people have forgotten how to play due to their upbringing or their everyday, working lives. It can be very healing to rediscover this playful energy and invite surprises or even challenges. I support you in encountering your lust and sensuality through play and I join you in the encounter with my own spirited energy.
Role-playing is not only a wonderful way to activate your playful instincts or desires. It is also an effective and valuable method for practising real-life situations, such as expressing desires and needs in a partnership or in a new intimate encounter. I play the other part and offer you feedback and suggestions, as well as the opportunity to keep on practicing, to feel more confident and comfortable and to embody the new experience.
Ritual Play
Ritual play is a form of encounter that allows you to follow your impulses, to express freely and to interact without any clear objective. In our performance-oriented society, we have often forgotten how to connect unintentionally, especially in intimate encounters. We frequently approach such encounters with a particular expectation in mind – with the goal of obtaining or experiencing something specific, or of pleasing the other person. In doing so, we miss out on the present moment.
With this method, we invite our playful, spontaneous and courageous parts to come forward. The play can be wild, passionate and very physical, but also calm, relaxed or emotionally touching. Sometimes it can feel very challenging and vulnerable to let go of our concepts and embrace the unknown. Uncertainty and hesitation and are also welcome in Ritual Play and can provide a wonderful learning environment, inviting our braver sides to show themselves.
Guidelines:
- The game is non-verbal. We can laugh, shout, moan, sing. However, conversations only take place before and after the game, outside the 3x3m ritual space.
Boundaries are agreed upon in advance and non-verbal signals are used during the game.
It is also possible to leave the ritual space at any time to pause the interaction, or to end the game completely with an agreed hand signal. The length of the game is determined in advance. At the sound of the gong, we both leave the ritual space and sit together to talk about what we have learned, the challenges we encountered and which moments we enjoyed.
- We keep our underwear on and do not touch our genitals. At first, this seems contradictory for a game without a goal, in which we want to follow our impulses. However, this rule allows us to focus on the rest of the body, especially when it comes to desire or sensuality, which we often associate very much with our genitals. It also provides a safe environment in which the mucous membranes remain protected.
Ritual Play was developed by Marina Kronkvist in Finland, where I had the honour and pleasure to train with her. Although the method seems very simple at first glance, like many forms of somatic improvisation, it has a profound potential to break down old patterns and open up new realms of experience.
Some people ask why the word ‘ritual’ is used. For me, the ritual aspect of ritual play is the mutual commitment to create a specific place and frame in which our playful encounter takes place, where we meet with presence and authenticity and honour and appreciate everything that is there in that moment.
Flirt Coaching
A word in advance: I do not believe in conventional ‘flirt coaching’. I don’t think there are any methods that work for everyone, and I don’t believe that the carefully learned language of male ‘pick-up artists’ really impresses women. However, I do believe that eye contact, showing genuine interest in the person you are dating, and having the courage to show both your qualities and your vulnerability, can be very attractive. When you invite someone on a date, it is important that you are willing to make decisions, take the lead, and express your own desires so that your date can also relax. It does not usually go down well if you always say, ‘I’ll do whatever YOU want’, thus relinquishing responsibility. The same applies when things get more intimate. Pre-prepared ‘tactics’ or supposedly clever things to say are not helpful here either, but instead authentic communication, an awareness of your own needs and the ability to be responsive to the person you are dating. This comes with practice. In a setting where your challenges and possible blockages are allowed to be there and can also be resolved.
Through role-playing, the IFS method (‘inner team’), feedback and practising together, we find a humorous, creative, accepting, loving and transformative way to work on the challenges of dating and to strengthen your qualities.
Coaching with dinner and wine
You are a connoisseur of good food and excellent wine. Do you love combining learning with culinary delights in a beautiful location? Me too.
Many of my coaching methods can be taught very well between courses or after a meal over a relaxing drink. Perhaps you would like to start by talking about your concerns and learning more about how I work during the first session. Feel free to invite me to your favourite restaurant and I will creatively adapt the session to our surroundings. If you would like a recommendation, I also can suggest a suitable restaurant where we can talk undisturbed.
For sessions of this kind, I charge my normal fee and request that you to cover the additional costs of the restaurant as well as my travel to and from the location.
Coaching on the Road
Learning is fun. It can happen in the world’s most beautiful places – at the Mediterranean coast, the North or Baltic Sea, on a hike through Tuscany or at a tantra retreat in Thailand. Travel with me to your favourite place and take time for your sexual journey of discovery, far from work and everyday stress.
We can begin the day with swimming, jogging, guided Tao Yoga practices or Sexual Tao meditation. Over a leisurely, relaxed breakfast, we could discuss your learning preferences and spend the morning with a session perfectly tailored to you and your sensual and sexual exploration needs.
In the afternoon, we could continue to explore in an afternoon session, or you can take time to integrate what you have learned – while sightseeing, cycling or hiking.
In the evenings, we can cook together or enjoy specialities in a local restaurant, before rounding off the day with somatic exercises, a soothing or invigorating massage, a contemplative tantra ritual, or yoga and breathing exercises to induce deep and restful sleep.
I would be happy to help you find the right location, and I can also take care of the travel planning and booking for you. I place importance on discretion.
I am a relaxed, creative, humorous and fun-loving travel companion who feels at home in many places around the world. Below are some of the locations I enjoy.
Nature or activity holidays (hiking, kayaking or cycling), spa resorts, holiday home or fincas, houseboats, city hotels and cultural trips, cruises or yachts, tree houses, lighthouses or bamboo huts on the beach, as well as glamping, island hopping in Greece or long-distance travel.
With my professional background as a former gallery owner and freelance interpreter, I am a confident, independent woman, an accomplished conversationalist and a suitable companion for business trips – especially if you want to combine a business trip with deepening your sexual and sensual experiences.
I speak fluent German and English and some Spanish.
Please note that the certified Sexological Bodywork method is only suitable for this type of travel if the required framework can be maintained. If this is not possible, some elements from Sexological Bodywork can be integrated into a somatic sexual coaching programme tailored to your needs.
